I think one of the greatest blunders in human history is to be attached to the wrong person.

We all know this to be true… We break up with the person we thought was our soulmate, then read their myspace, or facebook, or blog, or whatever later and find that they have posted complete lies about you and everything about your relationship.

What’s interesting, and also sad, is that we let ourselves be affected by them.

We read this utter crap about how we were lazy, or an asshole, or sexually inexperienced, or worthless, and it really hits home… despite how “over” that person we are.

Honestly, I wish there was a switch that could just be flipped.

Take me for example. My ex-wife is a freak of nature. I can say that now; however if you would have said that to me a year ago I would have made you swallow your two front teeth. Looking back now, I can honestly say I never knew that girl, and really say that she was a childish, self-involved, arrogant, selfish, mean-spirited jerk, who enjoyed making other peoples’ lives miserable.

But why don’t we see those things DURING a relationship?

I’ll tell you why. Because we choose not to.

I overlooked all the things I shouldn’t have. I overlooked her childishness, her ignorance, her hatred, her co-dependence… for what? Because I was in love with her? Hardly.

I fell in love with her later… because I wanted to…

Shouldn’t love happen naturally? Without any need for anyone or yourself to TALK yourself into it? Shouldn’t it be the easiest thing in the world? Yes it should.

So here’s the deal:

I can’t help what people think about me. I can’t stop stupid people from making stupid decisions. But what I can do is remember that the Universe wastes nothing. It does nothing frivolously. There is no Chaos, there is Harmony.

Now that being said:

How does one move forward with one’s life after dedicating it entirely to another? It seems so hard sometimes– like nothing wants to work for you.

I think that the only reason we are here, is to find the other person in the world that makes us happy. Monogamy can be beautiful, but it seems like it’s only meant for those who are 25 and older. Should anyone get married before the age of 25? Dr. Scott says: No effing way. Trust me folks, it’s not worth the heartache.

Can anyone make another person happy? Yes: but only if that person is happy already, and is only interested in sharing their happiness, not seeking it.